“Remember, When Life Hands You Lemons…Tuck ‘em Inside Your Bra! Couldn’t Hurt, Might Help!”

When I was in my early 20’s I was struggling.  I was dealing with so many different issues that I was overwhelmed.  My Mother, bless her heart, sent me a card and it said…”Remember, When Life Hands You Lemons…Tuck ‘em Inside Your Bra! Couldn’t Hurt, Might Help!”  Of course, it made me laugh. I hung it over my desk at work and looked at it every day.  It was the strength I needed to work my way through the issues I was facing.   There’s no doubt there are always issues facing us in our lives. They’re always different and change with what is happening at that time.  The card my mother sent me followed me to several different jobs. It has multiple thumbtack holes from being moved from bulletin board to bulletin board.  It is now yellowed instead of bright white, but the message is still the same, and the big signed Love, M is a reminder that my Mom always has my back.  Now that I am a Stay-At-Home Mom the card hangs over my crafting desk at home. 

Sometimes it feels like I get nothing but lemons. It feels like the situations I am dealt are so much more than I can manage. But no matter what has happened to date, somehow I have always found my way out to a brighter day.  People say “you aren’t given more than you can handle”, I’m concerned the man upstairs doesn’t know who he is dealing with.  I’m not trying to have a pity party, or wallow in the negatives, in fact it just the opposite. I’ve learned many times over that with these “lemons” there is always a blessing that follows.   It may not always be easy to see what that is a first, but it is there.

Get Free Email Updates!

Signup now and receive an email once I publish new content.

I will never give away, trade or sell your email address. You can unsubscribe at any time.

I’ve always had my family for support.  That is a no brainer for me, if I need something they are there.  I am remarried and my husband’s family is just as supportive. I never had this kind of support in my first marriage.  A lot of the “lemons” were left on my shoulders to manage alone. Now I have found my best husband and he says “I am stronger than I think”, he might be right, but I won’t tell him.

A challenging “lemon” for any parent is when your 15 year old daughter tells you she is pregnant.  In my heart there was no other option than to help her through and be there for her and her baby.  The blessing; my beautiful granddaughter is one of the smiles in my heart. She is funny, smart and a love bug. Her mother was the best teenage mother. Better than stereotypes would define.  She finished high school, graduating on time with her class and obtained her CNA certificate as well.  I’d have to say that “lemon” turned in to the cuddliest blessing that I reap the benefits from every day.

Some of my biggest “lemons” to tuck in my bra had to do with my both of my daughter’s eyes.  My oldest daughter was diagnosed with Optic Nerve Atrophy, which is a progressive eye impairment where the Optic Nerves “waste” away, restricting vision in varying degrees, from mild to blindness.  There is no answer on where a person will “end up” with their vision, so the uncertainty is a big “lemon” There are also no treatments, cures, surgeries or glasses that help this condition at this time. Her daughter, my oldest granddaughter, has been diagnosed as well, two “Lemons” to balance the bra.  My youngest daughter was born with bilateral cataracts.  An extremely scary “lemon” when you are passing your one month old over to an anesthesiologist to be put under for surgery.  She has had a total of 5 eye surgeries and will never have better vision than she has now.  Corrected with glasses her best vision is about 20/80. These two vision impairments have absolutely nothing to do with each other, no gene connection or link. The blessing that helps with these “lemons” is our amazing Ophthalmologist who has taken the best care of my girls for the last 17 years.  He feels like part of our family at this point.

I had “lemons” that pertained to the death of two grandparents four days apart, with funerals on the same day.  My Mom’s Mom and My Dad’s Dad.  It is extremely hard as a teenager to comfort two parents that are grieving at the same time when you are grieving yourself.  My brother and I did our best along with help from our extended family.  The blessing was the tighter family bond we gained within our home and with our extended family.

A “lemon” occurred when my Mother at age 57 had a heart attack.  A heart attack that could have been prevented with closer attention to her family history and simple testing being ordered.  Watching her be brave going through her hospitalization was inspiring.  Watching my Dad worry about her was frightening.  The blessing from the “lemon” was that one of her older brothers  who was having a physical a few days later mentioned to his doctor that his sister had just had a heart attack at a young age, his doctor acted immediately ordering testing for him.  He required bypass surgery for the blockages in his heart, but recovered much quicker because he avoided the damage to his heart that my mother had, he could have fared much worse.  Along with that, my Father, Brother and I have all had baseline testing done as well, to keep on top of our strong family history. 

We have had cancer “lemons”, my paternal grandfather being diagnosed with melanoma that metastasized to his brain which was terminal.  The blessing, my father getting a mole he was concerned about checked to find that he also had melanoma.   It was caught early enough to be cured and 27 years out he is cancer free.

Now my life has changed.  I am a stay-at-home Mom.  I have four children, 2 grandchildren and the world’s most amazing husband.  I have a beautiful home with plenty of space and life is the best it has ever been.

 But…now there are different “lemons”…

These “lemons” are the struggles that go along with living off of one income, a choice we made that requires sacrifices, but the blessing is being available for our children. There are also the “lemons” of raising a blended family.  It’s not what happens in our home.  Our home is very happy, loving and family oriented. Plain and simple, the kids come first.  It is always a “lemon” thrown at us like a baseball pitch clocked at 100 miles an hour.  It often comes in the form of hectic schedules, excessive travel, Co-parenting that doesn’t always go smooth and one parent living out of the country.  I find that the “lemons” are easier to handle when they are our own issue, but the “lemons” from outside often take deep breaths and patience.  It is a must that the children will always come first for us, no matter what. The blessing is most definitely the love we get from our four amazing children. They are all amazing in their own ways and provide us with unlimited joy.

I could go on a list dozens more “lemons”, and I am sure most people could.  However, the end result is what matters most.  Now my bra should be a size ZZ with all the “lemons” I’ve tucked in them over the years, but I’ve learned that lemon squares are really yummy, and I think it’s time to bake again.  I do know with my family’s support, and my Mom’s card of wisdom from years ago will help me through anything. My Blended Life surely makes me a Blessed Happy Wife, lemons squares and all.


Before you go, if you enjoyed this post then please take a moment and vote for my blog on the Top Mommy Blocks by clicking the banner below.  Thank you 
Vote For Me @ The Top Mommy Blogs Directory Vote For Me @ The Top Mommy Blogs Directory

1,240 total views, 11 views today

Comments

  1. Maria says:

    Why don't I recall this post? Did I miss this? Anyway, I'm trying to wipe the tears from reading this and my glasses is all fogged up! What an inspiring post! Here I am thinking this season of my life sucks, and I happen to read this and it feels like nothing compared to you! You are a strong woman, with a huge heart! I love the family values..the love..the mothering..the daughter in you..the strength to take on all the lemons however heavy they may eventually get. I love your mom's card! ❤

    1. admin says:

      My Mom’s card meant the world to me and that’s why I have hung on to it for more than 20 years.  I am a true believer that things happen for a reason, we may not understand it at that moment, but over time we get to see what the “plus” was that came out of it.  Plus, the thought about sticking the lemons in my bra always makes me chuckle 🙂

  2. Very inspiring post. Pat on the back to you for having gone through so much, and yet having a loving and positive attitude to life. I guess we only realise how strong we really are when we are faced with ‘lemon’ situations that life flings at us…

    1. admin says:

      thank you very much for your kind comment. Those lemons have definitely made me stronger

  3. I love this post! There are so many lemons in life but that card and your mom are right, we should tuck em in! I can’t believe how many lemons you have had, you sound like one strong woman I am impressed. I dream of having a big family like yours and maybe some day I will but for now I’ll just deal with my own very sweet lemon lol. Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!

    1. admin says:

      thank you very much I appreciate you comments. I really liked the process of the @StayClassyMama link party. It was very easy to participate and I will absolutely do it again

  4. I’m with you. I’m all about lemon bars. But seriously I appreciate this post. We can get caught up feeling down about the things life has to throw at us, but how we respond can make them good or bad. That’s awesome you have such a positive view.

    1. admin says:

      Thank you very much. We don’t always know what the reason is that something happens, but eventually we can see why things turned out the way they did

      1. Claudette Randall says:

        Enjoyed this very much. Well written and a very inspirational piece. Keep up the good work dear. You really need to compile all of these little blogs into a book. You’ve got quite a following in here. It would make a great book. 🙂

        1. admin says:

          Awe thank you 🙂 I never thought of that

  5. You have definitely had some lemons handed to you! Your perspective is warm and wise! I love that this little saying has given you strength throughout the years…I think I will start using it! 🙂

    1. admin says:

      It was perfect at the time and has been continuously. Thank you for your sweet comment

  6. Rosie says:

    Hi, I log on to your blog daily. Your story-telling style is witty, keep it up!|

    1. admin says:

      Thank you so much. I appreciate your support

  7. First of all, I love this quote! And you have sucha beautiful way with words!

    1. admin says:

      Thank you so much for you sweet comment

  8. 98Alisha says:

    I must say you have very interesting content here.
    Your page can go viral. You need initial traffic only.
    How to get it? Search for; Etorofer’s strategies

    1. admin says:

      Thank you for your kind comment. I appreciate it.

  9. I’m truly enjoying the design and layout of your site. It’s a very easy on the eyes which makes it much more enjoyable for me to come here and visit more often. Did you hire out a developer to create your theme? Superb work!

    1. admin says:

      Thank you for the compliment. It is a WordPress layout called Elegant Pink

  10. I blog often and I truly thank you for your content. Your article has really peaked my interest. I will take a note of your site and keep checking for new details about once per week. I opted in for your RSS feed as well.

    1. admin says:

      Thank you so much for your kind words

  11. I really love your website.. Great colors & theme. Did you create this website yourself? Please reply back as I’m wanting to create my very own website and want to know where you got this from or what the theme is named. Kudos!

    1. admin says:

      It is a WordPress theme

      1. admin says:

        I double checked the site it is called Elegant Pink

  12. It’s going to be end of mine day, but before end I am reading this enormous article to increase my experience.

  13. It’s awesome in support of me to have a web site, which is useful in favor of my experience. thanks admin

  14. Pretty section of content. I just stumbled upon your site and in accession capital to assert that I get in fact enjoyed account your blog posts. Anyway I’ll be subscribing to your augment and even I achievement you access consistently rapidly.

  15. Thank you, I have just been searching for info about this topic for a while and yours is the greatest I’ve discovered so far. However, what about the conclusion? Are you sure in regards to the supply?

  16. Whoa! This blog looks just like my old one! It’s on a totally different topic but it has pretty much the same layout and design. Excellent choice of colors!

  17. Good post. I certainly love this site. Continue the good work!

  18. joqIubKseF says:

    672439 714682I like this web site so significantly, bookmarked . 133916

  19. Very nice! Lg Sompit Kuhr Schlüsseldienst Stuttgart Sesam Libanonstraße 85 70184 Stuttgart Telefon 0711 75888447 http://www.sesam-schluesseldienst.de

  20. Sheila Moon says:

    Parents – they always give the best advice. The next time you have to tuck a lemon in your bra just think of the strentgh of that lemon. The toughness of the skin, the juice it provides and the refreshing taste of it. Now equate that to Motherhood! We take it all in for our kids as we protect them, nourish them and confort them.

  21. Your mother gave you the best recipe. I love it…either make lemonade or stuff in your bra. Everyone should have that outlook

  22. Gemma jones says:

    Hopefully I can comment and it’ll work this time! Haha
    Sounds like you’ve been through a lot but you’re a positive person. I love the saying on the card.
    My own little saying for when I hit tough times is always ‘onwards and upwards’

  23. Sounds like your mother is a lovely, fierce woman. I love the quote that she sent you, it’s very inspiring. Life sure throws a lot of lemons and sometimes it’s tough to just catch them all. I think it’s a very wise advice though. We should learn how to use those lemons and use them well!

  24. Kaylie says:

    Very inspiring article! Really well-written!! Thank you for sharing.

    xx Kaylie
    coffeewithkaylie.com

  25. Aleks F. says:

    Beautiful post! What a wonderful card from mom to bring you to such an important realization about life. Sometimes it’s the little comments, words or cards that can be forever life changing. Thank you for sharing so many personal “lemons”. I agree that my bra would carry a heavy load as well, but I just love anything lemon, so it works out! Definitely saving and sharing this!

    -Aleks

  26. Katja says:

    I actually laughed out loud reading that comment on the card. It’s true though. You can’t avoid the Lemons in your life but you can choose what you do with them.
    Katja xxx
    http://www.katnapped.com

  27. Elizabeth O. says:

    I so love that quote from your mom! It’s funny but also very true. We encounter so many lemons in our lives, sometimes more than we can handle in a day but it all works out in the end, we just gotta be creative with all those lemons!

  28. You certainly have had your fair share of “lemons.” I couldn’t imagine having to comfort two parents at the same time while grieving yourself. That had to be tough.

  29. katrina gehman says:

    you and your family have been through a lot. you have such a great outlook on life. keep it up

  30. Elizabeth says:

    Thank you for sharing this – you write really thoughtfully. Pinned 🙂

  31. Felicia says:

    What a beautiful, inspirational post! You have an amazing support system through the big blended family and it’s obvious you’re a strong woman. Thank you for sharing your lemons with us all.

  32. Nellwyn says:

    I think it’s so admirable how you’ve been able to something positive in all these difficult situations. It must be lovely to have that reminder from your mom to keep with you.

  33. You are amazing in every situation you were put it. We all go through hard times. You really know how to deal with certain circumstances and did so good.

  34. Michelle T says:

    I have a blended family to and a blended family blog which reaches out to Stepmoms. I am glad your mother is ok from the heart attack she had. It’s great that your Dad caught the melanoma before it spread too. Great post.

  35. Crystal Gard says:

    While it can be hard at times I do try to always look on the bright side of any situation.

  36. Emma white says:

    It sounds like you have had a tough time! I really hope your girls are ok, i love that saying and iam going to be taking it on board. Thankyou for sharing!

  37. Staying positive is definitely the way to go. Your joke about lemons in your bra really cracked me up. Thanks for the laughs.

  38. Kirsty says:

    This is awesome. So well written. I love what your Mum wrote, what a lovely thing to be able to carry around with you xx

  39. mira pstr says:

    looks that those powerful words in the letter have changed your vision in several sad things in your life, somehow we have all of us some words or sentences that we heard once from our parents and they changed our lives for ever !!

  40. This was a great piece of writing, and a great reminder to keep life in the right perspective, acknowledging the unsavory aspects of life while actively remembering to seek the blessings. I found it very meaningful, and entirely appropriate to some things I’ve been going through myself. Thank you for writing such an inspiring post.

  41. Steph says:

    I know all about life and lemons. My son was born with half of a heart in February of last year. Stay positive and keep making lemonade

  42. I love most things melon – not so much lemon meringue pie – and just had a glass of lemonade actually. Your mother’s advice is wise and one that would be helpful to pass around.

  43. Princess543@yahoo.com says:

    I’m with you! I always try to look on the bright side. I got pregnant at 19 and it was tough, but I dealt with it and everything turned out okay in the end.

  44. miltongoh says:

    Love your positive outlook on life. Continue turning lemons into lemonade. God bless you!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *